Mediation

THE MEDIATORS’ SKILLS

by | 28 July 2021 | Mediation, THE MEDIATORS’ SKILLS, Thought For The Day | 0 Comments

MEDIATION #142 It is good to break away from the daily diet of Mediation Stories and focus back on the qualities of a successful mediator. What is it that sets the Mediator apart? What skills does he/she need to possess to persuade the parties to agree to his/her...
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THE NEIGHBOUR’S MEDIATION – EPISODE 5

by | 23 July 2021 | Mediation, THE BIGGEST SOURCE OF MEDIATION, Thought For The Day | 0 Comments

MEDIATION #138 When, as a Mediator, you listen to the two parties’ respective accounts two things happen – they talk + you listen. But your listening is not detached/inactive but creative + solution oriented. You are looking for building blocks to a successful...
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MEDIATION BETWEEN THE NEIGHBOURS – EPISODE 4

by | 22 July 2021 | Mediation, THE BIGGEST SOURCE OF MEDIATION, Thought For The Day | 0 Comments

MEDIATION #137 You have met with George + Hatty (G+H) and now you call next door + speak to Tessa who, like H, also invites you over for tea with her and Alvin The houses are both solid mock Tudor. The interiors are, however quite different. #6 is quiet, conventional,...
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NEIGHBOURS IN CONFLICT – EPISODE 3

by | 21 July 2021 | Mediation, THE BIGGEST SOURCE OF MEDIATION, Thought For The Day | 0 Comments

MEDIATION #136 George + Hatty invite you over for tea and cakes at 4pm. You sense they are good people. No mysteries or surprises. No issues with their children or grandchildren. They have lived in the house for almost 30 years. Significantly, they had a very good...
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“CHARACTER MATTERS. BIG TIME”

“CHARACTER MATTERS. BIG TIME”

Apr 24, 2021

MEDIATION EPISODE 6 Why Character? Why not Organisation or Speaking Skills or - Meeting Management? It does not matter how much you have studied the Manual for Mediation + noted how to present the opening session or how to have separate meetings or how to move from...

OPTIONS FOR SETTLEMENT

OPTIONS FOR SETTLEMENT

Apr 23, 2021

COMMENT FOR THE DAY #64 MEDIATION Today I want to focus on an underestimated skill of the mediator – the ability to paint pictures of the alternatives going forward. Let’s be clear, the options are there – harmony or rupture. But can you give the right focus? Are you...

ALLOW THE ANGER TO COME OUT

ALLOW THE ANGER TO COME OUT

Apr 20, 2021

COMMENT FOR THE DAY #61 - EPISODE 5 H+W mediations can be the tensest. Just have a read of Shakespeare + see how jealousy can distort normal thought processes. You have to sit + listen. Don't try to deflect or curtail. The aggrieved partner - and it can be H as well...

OFFERS TO SETTLE AND COSTS

OFFERS TO SETTLE AND COSTS

Apr 17, 2021

COMMENT OF THE DAY #59 - EPISODE 4 MEDIATION "A Bitter Past Gets In The Way Of A Constructive Future" Husband + Wife disputes have the most tension, confrontation + anger. They fight in the present about the past split and it affects the future. H offers a little...

DO I HAVE TO SETTLE?

DO I HAVE TO SETTLE?

Apr 15, 2021

COMMENT OF THE DAY #57 EPISODE 3 MEDIATION The Court instructs the parties to try to mediate a dispute. Suppose it's an H + W post-divorce maintenance/financial dispute. Suppose the W wants a lot + the H offers a little. The Judge says "Go Away + Mediate". The Judge...

DO YOU HAVE TO MEDIATE?

DO YOU HAVE TO MEDIATE?

Apr 13, 2021

COMMENT OF THE DAY #55 - EPISODE 2 MEDIATION The court wants you to mediate because many disputes do not need to go down the path of confrontation. Some are made for mediation + some will never mediate. But the court requires you, at least, to try to meditate. So try!...

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