COMMENT OF THE DAY #59 – EPISODE 4
“A Bitter Past Gets In The Way Of A Constructive Future”
Husband + Wife disputes have the most tension, confrontation + anger. They fight in the present about the past split and it affects the future. H offers a little because he blames her. W looks at the children + wonders how she will cope.
The Mediator has to go to work. His challenge is to move from Positions to Interests. Positions = Anger. Interests = Solutions.
Does H want his children to hate him down the years? Will, he ever see his grandchildren? Does W want H as a long term enemy? Will money always be a tug of war. Bitterness is corrosive.
Easy to read in print but the good mediator has to find the right words + the right atmosphere to get both parties to think about jaw-jaw instead of war-war. A good mediator is so important. His/her skills can make or break a settlement
Are you up to it? Do you have the depth of experience and the instinct for a solution to bring about a mediation settlement? Think about your skills, your strengths (and your weaknesses). So much is riding on you. Dig Deep.