COMMENT FOR THE DAY #61 – EPISODE 5
H+W mediations can be the tensest. Just have a read of Shakespeare + see how jealousy can distort normal thought processes. You have to sit + listen. Don’t try to deflect or curtail. The aggrieved partner – and it can be H as well as W – have to have their moment of bitterness. It’s part of the process. Like a bulging grey cloud overhead, it is going to burst – rain and maybe thunder but it passes. Clouds depart + blue skies appear.
The aggrieved partner will not listen to you until you have listened to him/her. So sit back + listen and show interest. without getting involved in the rights/wrongs. Say just enough to show you are understanding. Let it go on a bit longer before trying to change the focus. But listen creatively and look for the opening to get the exchange back towards a resolution.
You need good interpersonal skills – know when to say something + when to be quiet. Silences can be eloquent.
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Last Episode 22 April 2021