Mediation

WORDS MATTER

MEDIATION #116 Good Morning from London. Today, Day 1 of a 3 Day look at words that help + hinder a mediation. Less of a story narrative + more of guidance note. Words do matter. Just think of the occasions when you allowed the wrong words to tumble out in a sensitive...

WINGERS AT WAR – EPISODE 4

MEDIATION #115 The State of Play. To your surprise, the Wingers are at War. This is not a superficial difference of opinion but an agenda of contempt, if not hate + its origins are in a past incident. Winger A was an arbitrator and Winger B was an advocate. You are...

WINGERS AT WAR – EPISODE 3

MEDIATION #114 The Unexpected Has Happened. The two party-appointed arbitrators are at war. Can the arbitration continue? Probably not, but before you call a halt to proceedings + inform the parties you decide to make one last effort – a mediation. You owe it to the...

THE ARBITRATOR BECOMES A MEDIATOR – EPISODE 2

MEDIATION #113 Civil War has broken out. Friction between the two Wingers. It is more than mere tension. Is it controllable? And if it isn’t – then what? This does not happen very often. Most arbitrators are civil + accommodating but the unexpected can happen. The...

THE SPARKS FLY – EPISODE 3

The Mediator’s meeting with the Residents was always going to be challenging. Should the meeting be with the Chair of the Residents Association [RA]?

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Mediation Impasse

Mediation Impasse

You are the sole mediator. There is an impasse. Nothing is moving. You are beginning to feel the pressure. And you do wonder if you are doing things right. This is where your skills come into play – Are you thinking creatively? Have you an open mind or are you, like...

Arbitrators need to be organised!

Arbitrators need to be organised!

They have to be ahead of the game + not trailing in its wake. Fall behind + you never catch up. Once Behind Always Behind. This is back to bad habits - one of the hardest things to do in life is to boot out a bad habit. A habit is a habit - like putting one foot in...

Are You A Competent Mediator?

Are You A Competent Mediator?

First Moments Matter. Be yourself - don't be a phoney or artificial. Some mediators act like that because the moment gets to them. Sometimes you have to fight to be natural. A contradiction in terms but not really. Think about it. You are the centre of attention....

What Am I Trying To Achieve?

What Am I Trying To Achieve?

In a phrase - discussion and debate. That is what I am after. I want to encourage arbitrators and mediators to express an attitude, to contribute a point of view, to help advance knowledge and understanding of the day to day issues that arise in the course of...

What my websites are about.

What my websites are about.

I have two websites. One of Arbitration/Mediation and one on China. With China I draw on my accumulated experience following my first 8 week visit to China in 1965 and my 120+ visits. There are no experts on China as such. Many do posture and give vent to a prejudice...

The purpose of my website!

The purpose of my website!

I want to make it a Forum for views and opinions on arbitration and mediation and, remember, I focus on practice - on what we do as mediators and arbitrators. I was an active football referee and used to attend monthly meetings of referees. The best part of the...

Graham Perry

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Mr Graham Perry M.A. Cantab FCIArb

Experienced Arbitration Lawyer | China & Chinese Business Affairs | Public Speaker/Lecturer